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Eileen's avatar

Bless you and your new home, dear Deda.

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Margaret P's avatar

I believe any place you and Sam are will become a bit of heaven!

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Stephanie Delzell's avatar

Thank you, Deda! I needed to see this today.

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Linda & Allen Delzell's avatar

Deda...."keep enough to keep what you do".... as what you do is fabulous!! I enjoyed your postcard, and am amazed that you have found the time to share these thoughts and photos! Hugs, Linda

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Deda Edney's avatar

That's a beautiful saying, Linda, working words! Thank you!

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Isabel Cutler's avatar

Hope your new "digs" spark much joy. We're on the list for Carolina Village and are in the process, not too aggressively yet, of paring down contents. It's sad to part with things, but when they can spark joy in someone else, it does bring great joy.

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Deda Edney's avatar

Yes, Isabel, joy is a good, positive guide. I remember visiting my grandmother at Carolina Village many years ago. I think there was just the first main building at that time. So it's always seemed logical to me to live there. I hope you take many great photos there!

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Isabel Cutler's avatar

Thank you, Deda. I hope our wait isn't much longer...but we only signed up this past January.

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Patty Stark's avatar

We all have too much clutter, and I know you will enjoy your new home once all is in place!!

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Deda Edney's avatar

Patty, you're going to laugh, but a recent Washington Post article title is "The Argument Against Decluttering". Of course, I don't dare to read it before I finish decluttering! Thank you for your good wishes.

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Helen Voris's avatar

We went through this several years ago when we moved from Brevard to our retirement community in Columbus, NC. It is excruciating...but ultimately one feels that a great burden has been lifted. I am now in the next phase, which is reviewing the things we moved here that I now realize I have not used in the past 3+ years, and so now another downsizing/decluttering is in progress. The gift in all of this is having more TIME, instead of feeling obligation and guilt about wrangling all the stuff that one is not using...and at this phase of life, TIME is the most precious element of all!

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Deda Edney's avatar

Your idea of the phases in this process is interesting and I look forward to the next one, now that I seem to have survived the first. Helen, I especially thank you for your words about the value of time.

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Isabel Cutler's avatar

Have to agree with you about the guilt associated with too much stuff! The sight of a shelf with nothing in it, or a freezer out of which tumble various plastic bags when I'm looking for something, sparks great joy for me!

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George Donahue's avatar

Today a co worker and friend was listening to news report that affected him indirectly. Totally biased against the facts. Strange how news media doesn’t get factual information. Well that is what people are accustomed to.

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George Donahue's avatar

It is very interesting how things change over 60 years. So peaceful back then. Just a memory anymore. A hand shake was your bond, your word was adequate for most any deal.

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Blair Jenkins's avatar

Poem by Elizabeth Bishop, all about loss: I wonder if you already know it, and whether you might resonate with it.

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Blair Jenkins's avatar

It’s called “One Art.”

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Deda Edney's avatar

With the Internet, it's wonderful how easy it is to have a beautiful poem such as "One Art" in front of one's eyes within seconds of a friend's recommendation. It's a hard one. I think the life raft is the words, "Write it!", don't you? Thank you, Blair.

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Blair Jenkins's avatar

So glad to share it with you!

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